Transcript of Tiara’s interview

Using the program that was given, this is my transcript of the interview I did with Tiara, highlighting the relationship she has with her family, most importantly, her two brothers, Bobby and Anthony.

[02:05:13.17] My name is Tiara Angelica Cango, I'm from Brooklyn, New York. And I'm a film major at Hunter College.

[02:05:40.21] Uh, I don't... okay. So, my family are... huge, I'm sorry.

[02:05:49.13] The adults in my family are huge gamblers and, uh, so every weekend we would go to Atlantic City because my father, he just loves to gamble.

[02:06:01.11] Uh, one trip it was me, my brothers, Bobby and Anthony, my younger cousin, um, and my parents. And I think this was during the summer.

[02:06:18.25] Yeah, it must’ve been during the summer where, because I remember we used to go to the beach, and we used to, uh, if you been to AC, there's like these huge sand dunes. like on the beaches and I have no idea what they are called.

[02:06:33.08] When I was a kid, my brothers used to tell me they used to be deal whales. And that, uh, that I think, uh, we have saved them from their bubbler or something. I don't know remember.

[02:06:46.09] it was a crazy story but, um, yeah, my brothers used to like, we would go on fam trips, my brother would be like normal brothers and tease me, make me scared of things, and it was weird because they were twenty years older.

[02:07:03.23] But I mean, they were still my brothers, they would still act giant douches.

[02:07:13.19] Um, I had very different relationships with the both of them. Bobby, he was more... um, of a like, I guess you could say he was the parent of the three of us.

[02:07:28.06] Um, he was the oldest of all three. Um, he would get ready me for school. When I was scared at night, I would go to his room, like to be safe from all of the monsters and things like that.

[02:07:40.29] He taught me how to cook. Well, he told me how to make fried chicken and stuff. my grandma taught me how to make pastas and everything.

[02:07:49.27] Um, he was like, he was like my dad compared to my big brother. But that was his role he had in life.

[02:08:01.14] With Anthony, that was a turbulent relationship. Um, I love him, I miss them both, but Anthony and me would fight like cats & dogs. We did not just get along, no manner what it was, we didn't get along.

[02:08:15.21] We couldn't, um, see eye-to-eye. I mean, we grew up in two diff. worlds. We grew up in the streets. I grew up in the books. That's just how we reacted to each other.

[02:08:58.14] Um, my brother wasn't affiliated with gangs, however he sold drugs, like he did everything you could think of. he sold drugs, he used to pimp.

[02:09:09.19] Um, I found out a lot more after when he died, he was just... he was just complete different person then what I wished he was. Which is why one of the reasons why we used to argue.

[02:09:25.19] You don't want your family member, even if their significant older than you to be this person that's told that's bad. You know, you what to have your brother to be the bad guy.

[02:09:38.03] But that's... I mean, essentially, he wasn't, he wasn't a bad guy to me. He's not a bad guy to his kids, you know, he's a bad guy to his friends. But none of that mannered when you come home, and you can't say, you know... you can’t say what you did during the day.

[02:10:04.02] Because its criminal acts, you know that's something that would tear me and my brother apart because it’s like your my brother, my big brother but your also kind of an idiot. But I do love him.

[02:10:50.01] Um, I would say that my brothers played probably the biggest parts of my life. With Bobby, he taught me how to walk away from situations and I know that sounds weird, but he taught me to always, like, be leveled and also be... okay!

[02:11:15.17] The best way I could say is that my brothers were the yin and yang to my life, so Bobby would be yin, Anthony would be yang.

[02:11:22.05] One tells me to be calm, be leveled, woosah the situation and the other is like, no, you need fight! You need to stand your ground! You need to, um, push back, and I mean... they both had this incredible way of shaping like who I am as a person and as a character.

[02:11:47.10] By being the complete opposite of it to each other.

[02:12:21.24] I would say the impact they had in my life is pretty 50/50, I mean like I said previously they're two completely different people. But they both taught me very, very important facts, well not facts but lessons in life that I could just learn by just by watching them.

[02:12:42.01] I know that my brother Anthony, um, he lost a lot of his life to the lifestyle he lived and watching him, even though he fought hard for his family... no manner what, if I needed something for school, even if we augured, even if I'm like you’re just a terrible person, whatever.

[02:13:06.04] No manner what I got it for school, if um, if I needed uh, needed to feel like I was going to be safe Anthony did teach me that, but he also taught me not to take my life for granted.

[02:13:30.16] I mean, you know, Bobby taught me that, too, differently.  because your life can be taken away from you multiple different ways and you don't realize it until it happens.

[02:13:40.12] But with Bobby, I guess you could say the biggest impact he had in my life was, like, me being a caretaker, I take care of my parents, I take care of my nieces and nephews as best I can. I can take of my fiancé obliviously I mean, it’s just he's made me that person.

[02:14:01.25] Like my brother and I know this also my mother, they always told me, if someone needs it more than you, give it to them like they would give you the shirt off their backs, the food off their plate, make a whole new dish, groceries, whatever. So that your take care.

[02:14:24.04] And that is how I still live my life.